Some topics are difficult to discuss. When it becomes difficult to talk about it, we meaninglessly shout about it. There are debates of right and wrong, there are sides chosen. But some things should not be so convoluted – there is no debate about right and wrong. It is wrong, it is unjust, period. We have been hearing of too many instances of rape, assault, harassment lately. For every girl who reports it, five others try to silence her stating she was lying or whatever she is claiming is “impossible and impractical.” That it was her own fault. That she was wearing the wrong clothes. I could go on, but here’s the gist: People would go to any lengths to prove a rape survivor (I am using the term “survivor” and not “victim,” as I learned from Robert Uttaro’s book) is lying but will not do shit about what they know is the truth.
But what about children? Are they dressed inappropriately? Are they inviting improper attention? Are they asking for it? Are they to be “taught a lesson for not doing their homework”? How do you dismiss those cases? What words do you use when defending those perverts? How does that lie easy on your conscience?
The worst part of this is how many of such incidents are being reported from schools. Schools! If they do not feel safe there, then we are seriously failing in terms of child safety. Most children don’t even know what is happening to them, but will remain scarred for life. What did a five year old do to deserve it? Again, I could ask you about how you let your conscience rest? If the stats are anything to go by, then 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys get molested. How comfortable are you knowing that at any time there could be a perverted pedophile in your child’s vicinity. I am a parent, and frankly, this terrifies me. I know it terrifies my husband. I know it terrifies each one of you out there who is a parent.
Yet, I don’t feel qualified enough to speak about it, to educate my child about it. It leaves me feeling helpless, knowing the stats yet wondering how do I help prevent it. If any of you feel the same way, perhaps I should inform you of this event on Facebook that might help us. It will be live streamed on the 22nd of Sept and it is being hosted by Happy Parenting.
Like I said in the beginning, some topics are difficult to discuss, but discuss them we must. May this session help all of us.
PS: Just in case you were wondering, this is not a promotional post.