The Man Who Wanted To Burn His Daughter Alive

While the nation applauded the death sentence given to the criminals in Nirbhaya’s case, this one Indian gentleman opposed the judgment. His thoughts, “Why was she, an unmarried girl, roaming with a boy on the streets at night? If it was my daughter, I would have burnt her alive.” He was one of the lawyers in this case. Needless to say, he was defending the criminals.
Should this man be hanged too?
Why is it that some men (and sometimes, shockingly, even women) have this sort of an attitude? Why is the victim being blamed? Why are there reports of ruthless “honour killings” in different parts of this country? And what kind of an oxymoron is “Honour Killing”? How does killing a member of the family for the sake of “family name” become honourable? The whole premise, the whole theory is flawed; the practice – brutal. Signs of a weak regressive society that refuses to let go of the chains of caste and religion and other forms of groupisms that it has bound itself in.
While it may be noted that India is not the only country in this world that has honour killings, it is more than disturbing to note that an average Indian father would rather kill his own daughter than have a walking-talking rape victim roam about his courtyard. Hasn’t the victim suffered enough? Is it necessary that she be shunned in her own family? Is it necessary that she be made to believe it was her own fault that she is a victim and that a hot-blooded pervert isn’t to be blamed at all? Is it fair to ask “Why was she roaming with him at such a time?” It’s a free country; can’t a girl roam at 9 pm in the bloody capital, for crying out loud!
To say I was appalled at the lawyer’s comment would be a gross understatement. Nirbhaya was brutally murdered. She had her intestines pulled out! And with what righteousness do you claim that if it was your daughter, you would kill her with your own bare hands? Or burn her alive? The lawyer’s comments make me feel that perhaps the rapists got off too easily. Death by hanging is too quick. Perhaps them, and their lawyer should all have had their intestines pulled out. With a red hot iron rod. And made to suffer for over two weeks.
And the lawyer needs his tongue chopped off with a burning knife. We do not need such people in our law structure.

38 thoughts on “The Man Who Wanted To Burn His Daughter Alive

  1. Helena Fortissima September 18, 2013 / 8:33 PM

    The idea of “honor killings” is bizarre enough to begin with, but why anyone would blame the victim of a heinous crime is unconscionable.


  2. nothingprofound September 18, 2013 / 9:52 PM

    It just shows the terrible power tradition and custom have to destroy reason and conscience.


  3. Yun Yi September 19, 2013 / 12:44 AM

    Unspeakable horror. China also has similar issues. Too bad. Sometime a tradition needs to die, for the sake of life!


  4. Indrani September 19, 2013 / 1:13 AM

    His license should be cancelled.


  5. Aparna Bose September 19, 2013 / 2:42 AM

    what will happen to the defence lawyer i do not know but these rapists should not die such an easy death…they should be made to feel the fear and the pain that the girl went through


  6. arpitha September 19, 2013 / 3:58 AM

    Its appalling to hear such comments from a lawyer. I had heard that some politician also held the same view. And to have such people in top positions, its frightening. Those four got of easily.


  7. Karan Sampat September 19, 2013 / 4:49 AM

    Completely shocking…and the lawyer can easily say that because he wasn't the one to suffer..


  8. IM CRAzy NOt really September 19, 2013 / 7:03 AM

    which part of his speech did you have the most problem with ? was it the “what was the girl doing alone with a boy at night” or was it the “I'll burn my own daughter” part ? let me ask you, which planet are you living on ? that first sentence might have easily come out of one of your relatives' or parents' mouth or may be not. the problem I have with this kind of vitriol, is that if the person in question is a stranger like the lawyer here, you guys go to town on him, but if the person is a relative or someone close, he escapes, ohh he's just a lil biased, how cute. you see, your friend or relative is somebody else's stranger. that guy is gonna become somebody else's problem. i've seen this kinda behavior from women quite a few times. you guys don't like to burn bridges. ok, i generalized women a bit too much here, but you get the point.


  9. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:15 AM

    Yes, Helena, it is. Often the case is that the victim is left feeling guilty, with the thought “Did I invite it upon myself?” It's horrible.


  10. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:15 AM

    People need to grow. Sometimes traditions and customs are shackles around our ankles.


  11. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:16 AM

    Yes Yun; it's not just China or India that is in question. Crimes against women happen everywhere. One might say being born a woman is a crime in itself. Sad but true!


  12. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:17 AM

    But do you think it'll happen? He and his comments will soon be forgotten. Tomorrow he'll fight another case. He'll live cosily ever after.


  13. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:18 AM

    Yes, hanging is too easy. Their intestines should be pulled out too… I am not even gonna write how. But they should suffer like she did.


  14. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:19 AM

    Yeah, I think you're referring to the comments made by the CM of Karnataka, who blamed girls in short skirts for such crimes. It is not just one or two such people. Too many people hold the “Clothes/Victim to be blamed” view.


  15. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:21 AM

    Yes, maybe he should be burnt alive. That would stop him from making such comments


  16. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:33 AM

    I am not disagreeing with you. The statement could have easily come out of anyone's mouth. And that is what I have a problem with.
    I have not mentioned anywhere that it is only men who say this. In this country, even women blame women. I am saying, “blaming the victim has to be stopped”!
    The lawyer isn't a stranger. The whole country is aware of his statements. And as foir your statement about it being a relative or whatever, does that make what he says to be correct? He is still wrong. He is no one to pass such judgment. Is he? On what basis is he deciding right or wrong?
    The mentality of the people needs to change. And if educated people like lawyers are passing such comments, then as a society, aren't we going to dogs?
    And you tell me, are you justifying the lawyer's statements? Do you not find anything wrong with it?


  17. IM CRAzy NOt really September 19, 2013 / 9:38 AM

    I'm not justifying him. Just another patro-nazi, who thinks women are his slaves. Or may be this is just a ruse to promote his business.

    Anyway, his views have been tolerated and reaffirmed by the society he's living in. That is how he has become such a bigot.

    This is just like how everybody tolerates their islamophobic or homophobic or racist friends. Since he's not talking about me, I'd better have a laugh.

    So I'm blaming women for all this. 😀 just kidding.. this kinda patriarchal behavior is not gonna disappear in a second. Men who think they are superior are not gonna help in any way.


  18. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 11:06 AM

    It wont disappear and they wont help. But those of us who know this should curb such people. Tradition (in such cases) will have to take a backseat. Laws have to be re-written. We cant live an outdated sort of life just cos we “tolerate” the people who promote it.


  19. IM CRAzy NOt really September 19, 2013 / 3:51 PM

    Is a life time enough for that ? the conversations needed to convince all these people, what are the chances that they won't reject all these ideas saying westernization ? I'm being pessimistic here, but anything short of a revolution cannot bring about this change.. nuh-uh.. it took the loss of an innocent life and some young people on the streets, for them to rewrite the laws against rape, and seriously that wasn't even a solution. What about the police ? The social stigma felt by the victim ? What law can avert that ? This is just my opinion, democracy was never designed to rule over one billion people, they never tested it for that. India should stop being a country, split its states into individual countries.


  20. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 5:26 PM

    How is splitting up into countries gonna help?
    And yeah, nearly everything is blamed on “westernization”. If you look at it pessimistically, then you could say that a lifetime isn't enough. But we have seen in the past that there have been individuals strong enough to have overthrown the ideas of their time in one lifetime. If a revolution is what is needed, then a revolution must be called for. While you may argue that Indians are too complacent for a revolution and have too much of a “chalta hai” attitude, there must be at least a few whose lifetimes must be long enough to change laws. You do get my point that by “long enough”, I mean metaphorically.


  21. allresourceupdates September 19, 2013 / 7:10 PM

    The Lawyer said that because it was not about his daughter and He was paid for doing that..But that really doesn't allow him to make such comments…If People like him lose Morals and starting saying such things obviously he is allowing more and more crimes to happen…Roaming at Night with a Boy is not an issue at all and nowhere in our Myths or Constitution it is written that Roaming at night is a Crime and You would be brunt alive…It is the mindset people that needed to be changed especially the older generation who still likes to have a Gap between Male and Female and Hence the Crimes..To–Rape not only happen to Elder Females but also girls of age 10-12 years and They don't roam at night,So what would you say Mr.Lawyer?


  22. Rum-Punch Drunk September 19, 2013 / 7:49 PM

    Sometimes I have to just sit back and think how disgusting and perverted the human race has become. To murder someone in order to stop you feeling ashamed is beyond me, especially when they are the VICTIM.


  23. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:07 PM

    Such comments show how the majority of our country thinks. The fact that no one even retaliated to his statements shows how tolerant we are. We lose our temper over smaller things, but when it comes to something like this, it's quietly brushed under the carpet.
    Mr.Lawyer will have yet another cock n bull story to present before TV channels if he is asked the question above…


  24. Sreesha Divakaran September 19, 2013 / 8:09 PM

    In most cases, if the “victim” isn't “honorably murdered” by an elderly male relative, they decide to commit suicide. It is still better than being dragged into a circus of a law system that continuously questions you on what you were doing out at night or what you were wearing.


  25. IM CRAzy NOt really September 21, 2013 / 8:03 AM

    I don't know yaar, you are right, I'm right.. what difference does it make ? we are on the same side of the fence.. I don't know what I'm arguing about


  26. Sreesha Divakaran September 21, 2013 / 8:19 AM

    🙂 Same side of the fence, seeing the same thing, but viewing it differently maybe… Or maybe we both had more opinions to offer and my original post didn't cover everything…
    Glad we both are right, though. And glad we're on the same side of the fence 😛


  27. Sreesha Divakaran September 21, 2013 / 8:21 AM

    Aww, I have disabled copy-paste. But I do believe this has been recommended to me before on Facebook, on Women's Day, yes?


  28. IM CRAzy NOt really September 24, 2013 / 4:18 PM

    oh I recommended this ? I had no idea.


  29. Sreesha Divakaran September 24, 2013 / 4:26 PM

    The “Thank you” note was for everyone who reads what I write… And for a long time, I guess you were the only one 😉
    Besides, I like the points you put forward… They are worth discussing about 😀


  30. Jini Fernandez November 30, 2013 / 3:08 PM

    Your writings are quite powerful. Keep Up The Good Work.


  31. Harsh Kulshrestha December 3, 2013 / 4:00 PM

    It's rather unfortunate to note that on one hand India is developing, and on the other exist such evil minded people. I mean, come on! The girl is a human and a citizen too, and has full rights and freedom to live her life the way she wishes, People with such a narrow mind are at equal fault too. Great post. (y)


  32. Sreesha Divakaran December 3, 2013 / 5:16 PM

    Yes, it's really sad that an educated man (and a lawyer!) should have such views.


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